July 5, 2013
How to Find Love This Summer
There’s still time to get your tickets for the Summer Lovin’ party on Tuesday, July 16th. This is your opportunity to mix and mingle with some interesting men and get some on the spot dating advice and wing woman support from yours truly. If meeting a new man this summer is on your vision board or part of your summer fun plan, this is the place to do it. Get your tickets here.
Do You Really Want to Be Married?
“Marriage isn’t supposed to make you happy, marriage is supposed to make you married”.
I was having a conversation with a friend yesterday, and she asked me why I thought Oprah never got married? I threw out a few theories, none of which I actually know to be reason. But ultimately, marriage is not for everyone. That doesn’t mean that people don’t want to be loved or in relationships, but the structure of those relationships can vary.
I believe in marriage. I expect to marry, and I think there are a lot of benefits to marriage, like legal privileges and being able to enjoy safe sex with the same person (assuming both parties are honoring monogamy). I also think it’s amazing to share love and to travel along the path of life with the man who’s a great fit for you. I wouldn’t be helping women Get Ready for Love by improving their dating lives if I didn’t believe this.
But we live in a world that creates this fantasy about what marriage is really all about. If you know anyone who’s in a good marriage, if they’re smart, they aren’t going to tell you about all of their problems or the disagreements they have. Because, quite frankly, it’s none of your business. But if you only see them when they’re all lovey dovey and feeling great about their relationship, it’s very easy to assume they are like that all the time.
If you want love, but don’t like sharing your space, is living with someone 24/7 the best option for you? So, what kind of relationship do you want?
Do you want to be married?
In a relationship, but living separately?
Do you want children?
Married, but no children?
You get to decide. But it’s very easy to make relationship choices based on what you believe society, family or friends say you should want.
In honor of Independence Day, I encourage you to choose the kind of relationship that’s right for you, to be unafraid to have the kind of relationship that you want even if it goes against the norm. Because you have to live with it. I believe in marriage, and I fully support it, but it’s not for everyone.
Do you really want to be married? Or is there another kind of relationship setup that you think would be a better fit for you? Leave a comment and share your thoughts.